When “adulting” gets in the way of goals
I’ve been noticing how hard my youngest is working on walking. He will try over and over and over again. He doesn’t get upset when he face plants, he just gives me a big smile because he took a few steps. Then he gets up and tries again.
Somewhere along the way, we lose this ability to enjoy the process of learning. We forget to be proud of ourselves for the small wins and simply enjoy the challenge. He desperately wants to walk like his sister, but he is not upset when he can’t, he only keeps trying. Every time she runs by it spurs him to try harder.
We often lose this as adults. Instead of watching the girl run by that is doing what we want to do and thinking, “I’m going to work harder to achieve my goal”. We get jealous, put ourselves down, slip into a victim or blaming mode… “if only I had x or if only my life were easier” I don’t know, think about the last excuse you told yourself and insert it here.
Personally, I’m done with excuses.
It’s a good thing that small children don’t know how to give themselves excuses or they may never have the determination to learn how to run. It’s hard and takes lots of practice. But, joy and a sense of pride can be found in learning something new. The harder the task to overcome (the more work you put into it) the greater the internal reward when you accomplish it!
When my youngest falls while trying, he doesn’t spill out some excuse on why his body isn’t strong enough, or blame it for not being enough. He just smiles and tries again. There are so many lessons to be learned from children and how they approach life.
Learning new movements and gaining control over our body can feel like learning to walk. It can be really, really hard!! Sometimes I feel bad for asking the women in the program to think and do the hard stuff. I often wish it were easier. I wish I could just give them 3 exercises, say form doesn’t matter and wave a magic wand.
It’s not easy but they are gaining something no one can ever take away. They are gaining knowledge about their bodies. They are gaining autonomy. If you’re willing to work for it, that is yours forever, like learning to walk. Once you gain that connection, you will have it forever.
One of my goals as a PT is to help spread a love of the process. We have to meet ourselves where we are at, recognize that new challenges will be hard and then rise to challenge. A goal cannot be reached without dedicating time and effort.
What you have to decide is, is it worth it? Am I worth it?
Do I value my goal enough to prioritize the work it will take to achieve it?
If you’re not ready, you’re not ready, recognize where you’re at in life and be ok with it. No sense in beating yourself up if you’re not in place to dedicate energy to accomplishing your goal. When our actions do not reflect our desires it creates internal strife and anxiety.
Clearly, my youngest has decided that all the effort of walking is worth it. We should join him!!
Now it’s your turn. What goals do you want to accomplish? Are you ready to decide that you’re worth it? Life is about more than survival, although, I’ll admit sometimes being the mom of two little ones it can feel like survival at times. But, I refuse to settle! I want more than that and I’m ready to fight for my goals. So, I guess I’m asking, are you willing to fight for those goals, whatever they may be?
Just a little food for thought. I hope you’re having an awesome week and enjoying life!